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For the Coupledom: How to Take Ownership and Why It Is So Scary

For the Coupledom: How to Take Ownership and Why It Is So Scary

By Jill Edelman . 03/13/2020

Reader Beware: This post is not intended for the quick fixers or the folks who find exploration of emotion boring! The hardest psychological endeavor in the couples therapy process is the act of taking ownership for perceived hurtful behaviors to one’s partner. Seconds after a spouse expresses their feelings, with lightning speed, their partner launches […]

Bully Wives #2 – Am I a Bully Wife?

Bully Wives #2 – Am I a Bully Wife?

By Jill Edelman . 01/29/2018

Publishing a piece on Bully Wives during this momentous chapter in our cultural history might seem grossly insensitive or politically and socially deaf. I actively support the #MeToo movement and am marching in step with the challenges to male dominance and exploitation of women which have brought courageous women and some men to tell their stories, […]

Why Do Some People Stay? What Can We Learn From Hillary Clinton

Why Do Some People Stay? What Can We Learn From Hillary Clinton

By Jill Edelman . 06/10/2016

I am listening to an audio book called First Women by Kate Browser, which delves into the lives of first ladies from Jacqueline Kennedy to Michelle Obama, providing lots of anecdotes and “insider” information about each of the ladies as well as painting a very interesting portrait of their lives in the White House, a portrait […]

The Senior Coupledom*: Like the Elephant, Majestic and Scarred

The Senior Coupledom*: Like the Elephant, Majestic and Scarred

By Jill Edelman . 08/12/2015

I am impressed by the sheer physicality of a couple who have spent four and more decades married. There is something implacable, massive, monumental, well worn and a bit weary in their presentation. I see them in my office, town events, airports and cocktail parties. Like the elephant whose swaying bulky splendor moves towards the […]

Couples Counseling: A Tool For Life?

Couples Counseling: A Tool For Life?

By Jill Edelman . 03/01/2012

Checking In: When a couple comes in for counseling, they are motivated by a personal crisis, either within The Coupledom or one pressing on the Coupledom. Typical triggers are a particularly volatile fight, an encounter with relatives/in-laws that leads to a clash of attitudes, a financial crisis, a child’s acting-out, loss, an affair, a suspected […]

Finding Love Over Fifty Online?

Finding Love Over Fifty Online?

By Jill Edelman . 10/11/2011

Can Dreams Come True After Fifty-Two? I am hearing a lot lately about older folks meeting up and partnering or even marrying, happily and in many cases, unexpectedly. Unexpected in that either they had been searching for years with no results, or surprisingly lucky when they began their search to find the perfect mate. Perfect […]

Bully Wives? Yes, But They Don’t Know It.

Bully Wives? Yes, But They Don’t Know It.

By Jill Edelman . 09/22/2011

Powerful Impact: Women are depicted as the “weaker sex”; have been for centuries. And in so many ways the inculcation of that notion, along with certain biological and physical realities, has successfully rendered them so, a state many of us fight each day. Yet there are times when sitting in my office, or out socializing, […]

The Coupledom: Is It Too Late?

The Coupledom: Is It Too Late?

By Jill Edelman . 04/25/2011

Inspiration: This post was inspired by a friend. He calls it “Nurture the Coupledom.” He and his wife arranged for their child to be left with grandparents for her first overnight to enable them to  “go out”, as in a “date night.” I could hear his pride both in his daughter’s readiness for this big […]

Stereotyping The Coupledom

Stereotyping The Coupledom

By Jill Edelman . 04/11/2011

Stereotyping Your Partner: One marvels at the power of gender stereotyping in The Coupledom, that domicile in which the relationship resides. Years, even decades into a marriage, partners interpret behaviors in the language of expected gender norms. Often these interpretations are inaccurate and create emotional distance rather than facilitate connectedness. Dismissive or Disengaged? At the […]

The Secret To A Happy Marriage: Self-Expansion

The Secret To A Happy Marriage: Self-Expansion

By Jill Edelman . 01/03/2011

A Tip To Start The Coupledom Off On The Right Foot in 2011: The sum of one partner part plus one partner part equals two partner parts: No! Not if you follow the research. In fact, as mentioned in previous posts, optimal bonding in The Coupledom should lead to a much greater, broader entity…the combined […]

“Love Means Never Having To Say You’re Sorry”: Excuse Me?

“Love Means Never Having To Say You’re Sorry”: Excuse Me?

By Jill Edelman . 03/24/2010

The Healing Power of Remorse: In the 1970 movie, “Love Story”, the line “Love means never having to say you’re sorry”  became universally famous. The movie, based on the eponymous book by Erich Segal, popularized the concept, furthered bolstered by the pop psychology of the era, that true love required an unconditional acceptance of the […]

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