Loss is perhaps life's greatest certainty - and most difficult of passages. I have written in this blog post about different kinds of loss. There is the long journey of a spouse's chronic or degenerative illness; there is the loss that occurs with acute illness and intensive medical interventions; there is the unexpected loss that shocks and catapults a new reality into existence in seconds. There is the loss of love, of a marriage ended, a relationship that hit a wall. All losses require a time of grieving and grieving too comes in waves, stages and sometimes accompanied by serious complications.
Small steps: Each day, baby steps mark the way towards a tolerable reality. Unexpected loss strips the survivor of their confidence in the predictability of life and this can be quite debilitating. Rebuilding a trust in the everyday world might take some professional help as well as the passage of time. Time is a paradox in loss. It is time whose excruciating tred moves so slowly along in the grieving process and yet it is time whose gentle hand can be so healing.
Our Coupledom Life: When we sign on for the shared life, written in invisible ink along the margins of the contract to love another is the profound truth: one of our twosome will depart first. Does that keep us from love? Hardly. Loss is life’s most consistent theme.
If you need a hand to guide you when you are faced with the unfathomable, seek out family, friends or experts. Don’t totter alone. This deepest of all human emotions needs company.
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