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For the Coupledom: How to Take Ownership and Why It Is So Scary

For the Coupledom: How to Take Ownership and Why It Is So Scary

By Jill Edelman . 11:42 am

Reader Beware: This post is not intended for the quick fixers or the folks who find exploration of emotion boring! The hardest psychological endeavor in the couples therapy process is the act of taking ownership for perceived hurtful behaviors to one’s partner. Seconds after a spouse expresses their feelings, with lightning speed, their partner launches […]

Conflagration or Communication: Shielding Vulnerability

Conflagration or Communication: Shielding Vulnerability

By Jill Edelman . 5:10 pm

Words can be incendiary. Words can be inviting. Words can be soothing or exciting. Words can be informing or confusing. The power of words fueled by tone of voice and facial expression, highlighted by hand gestures and body movement, can open up a communication or shut it down. Fact or fiction or subjective interpretation, words […]

As The Toilet Paper Rolls: The Domestic Challenge

As The Toilet Paper Rolls: The Domestic Challenge

By Jill Edelman . 6:22 pm

  A close up view of the daily goings on of a typical American Coupledom resembles a made for primetime series or a daytime soap. And that is what the most successful series chronicle – the minutiae of lives joined together. Could be Friends or Modern Family but the humor tends to be built upon […]

Toolkit of New Years Vows for 2016

Toolkit of New Years Vows for 2016

By Jill Edelman . 12:06 pm

New Years Vows 2016: Each Day 1. Each Day I will wonder about you – how are you doing? How was your day? And each day I will take a moment to ask you. And each day I will actually listen to your answer. 2. Each Day I will tell you the truth. Each day […]

The Catch Phrases of Manipulation in The Coupledom

The Catch Phrases of Manipulation in The Coupledom

By Jill Edelman . 4:01 pm

How can you tell if someone is manipulating you? Let’s see. Are you frequently unsettled and confused after a conversation that didn’t go as you expected? Do you identify with that deer in the headlights scrambling up the shoulder of the road to escape from the semi heading its way? Do you leave conversations with […]

Missing Teeth and Bully Wives: Aggression in The Coupledom

Missing Teeth and Bully Wives: Aggression in The Coupledom

By Jill Edelman . 10:22 pm

Guatemala: I journeyed to Antigua, a Spanish colonial World Heritage city in Central America’s Guatemala, where a family member currently resides. At the steps of a church in partial ruins were a little girl and her mother who were selling votives. I purchased a votive in exchange for a photo of the pair. When I […]

Tone, Look, Word (TLW): Stop the Poison Communication

Tone, Look, Word (TLW): Stop the Poison Communication

By Jill Edelman . 12:28 pm

A Volley of Gunfire Or A Conversation: Negative Communications. There are endless reasons why couples find themselves choosing tones, looks and words that insult, mock, tease and demean their partner. Hurt and angry feelings are no strangers to any relationship. The sarcastic tone, rolling eyes, mouth twisted in a smirk, and words that sting, all […]

Stereotyping The Coupledom

Stereotyping The Coupledom

By Jill Edelman . 9:19 am

Stereotyping Your Partner: One marvels at the power of gender stereotyping in The Coupledom, that domicile in which the relationship resides. Years, even decades into a marriage, partners interpret behaviors in the language of expected gender norms. Often these interpretations are inaccurate and create emotional distance rather than facilitate connectedness. Dismissive or Disengaged? At the […]

 

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