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Coupledom Resolutions Revisited: New Years 2014

Coupledom Resolutions Revisited: New Years 2014

By Jill Edelman . 8:21 pm

New Couples, Veteran Couples: Here are a few suggestions for the ritual of joint resolution that we call the New Year. When the ball drops this even numbered New Year be prepared. Talking Heads: Vow to aim for eye contact when you have verbal exchanges as much as possible. The walking out of or into […]

No, You Are The Problem: Finger Pointing in The Coupledom

No, You Are The Problem: Finger Pointing in The Coupledom

By Jill Edelman . 2:47 pm

Easy Enough: Is there anything easier, almost at any age, than pointing your finger at someone? Towards the end of the first year of life, most babies are pointing at something. And in our final days, feeble though we may be, we still have point-ability. No wonder we stay attached to this skill: it is […]

A Smart Mother’s Day for The Coupledom

A Smart Mother’s Day for The Coupledom

By Jill Edelman . 2:53 pm

Your Mother, Her Day: Mother’s Day is coming and the material world is busy reminding us to commemorate our mothers with flowers, jewelry, breakfast in bed, and dinner out at a special restaurant. Though this tradition of honoring motherhood has ancient roots, the current version began in 1907 when Ana Jarvis, desirous to honor her […]

The Coupledom Contract: Who Gets Thrown Under The Bus?

The Coupledom Contract: Who Gets Thrown Under The Bus?

By Jill Edelman . 9:33 am

The Costs Of Accommodation: There are many unspoken and even unconscious clauses in most Coupledoms. They may include never confronting your partner with the reality of their tone-deaf singing or limited grace on the dance floor. Perhaps the overcooked spaghetti goes unmentioned, or the gardening attempts that are less than stellar. None of these accommodations […]

The Rich Coupledom Under Siege

The Rich Coupledom Under Siege

By Jill Edelman . 4:21 pm

A Mansion Divided: Several years ago I began working with a young married mother of two whose husband was prospering mightily on Wall Street. She was alarmed by an increasing sense that extended family members were assessing her family’s capital worth with personal gain in mind. She was just one of several patients with whom […]

Interracial and Interfaith Marriage: Triangle Traps?

Interracial and Interfaith Marriage: Triangle Traps?

By Jill Edelman . 10:09 am

Triangle Hell: Diane Farr’s piece “Bringing Home The Wrong Race” (the title alone speaks volumes) in the New York Times Sunday is a telling tale of a journey between worlds fueled by love. Ms. Farr, actress, author and caucasian, describes her courtship with Seung Chung, who is of Korean descent. I was intrigued by their united […]

ToolKit of New Years Vows for Relationship 2010

ToolKit of New Years Vows for Relationship 2010

By Jill Edelman . 8:55 pm

THIS NEW YEARS EVE, SUGGESTED VOWS FOR THE COUPLEDOM Take Time:  Each day, by email, cell phone or in person, touch base on how your partner is doing.  Be Curious: Just a simple inquiry, how has your day been? No distance or work load or diaper pile is far enough, big enough or deep enough […]

Triangle Traps

Triangle Traps

By Jill Edelman . 6:20 pm

No relationship is an island unto itself:  There are in laws, children, friends, political parties, neighbors and pets, all of whom can serve up a poisonous stew of triangulation unless a couple is trained to look out for this vile brew. Typical triangulations are: a child and one parent talk negatively about the other parent […]

 

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