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Tone, Look, Word (TLW): Stop the Poison Communication

Tone, Look, Word (TLW): Stop the Poison Communication

By Jill Edelman . 12:28 pm

A Volley of Gunfire Or A Conversation: Negative Communications. There are endless reasons why couples find themselves choosing tones, looks and words that insult, mock, tease and demean their partner. Hurt and angry feelings are no strangers to any relationship. The sarcastic tone, rolling eyes, mouth twisted in a smirk, and words that sting, all […]

Do You Need an Education to Stay Married?

Do You Need an Education to Stay Married?

By Jill Edelman . 8:14 pm

The National Marriage Project: The State of Our Unions is a joint publication of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and The Center for Marriage and Families at The Institute of American Values. I have provided a link to download a PDF of the study above and urge everyone to scroll through […]

Nailing Down The Perfect Match

Nailing Down The Perfect Match

By Jill Edelman . 8:28 pm

Hocus Pocus: Two articles appeared in the New York Times in the last week on couple compatibility. The M.R.S. and the Ph.D. article tracks the changing attitudes towards women’s educational achievements and marriageability over the decades. The early 1900’s through the 1950’s warned that “educated women” were less likely to attract husbands and were cautioned that […]

Coupledoms, Focus On Education!

Coupledoms, Focus On Education!

By Jill Edelman . 4:39 pm

Clarifying Priorities: I do not consider myself an expert on economics, not even adequate, but I am an expert on couples and families. Today’s New York Times’ Op Ed column by David Brooks is a must read for couples with children. Scroll down to paragraph 7 and read his description of something he terms “Red […]

Finding Love Over Fifty Online?

Finding Love Over Fifty Online?

By Jill Edelman . 4:53 pm

Can Dreams Come True After Fifty-Two? I am hearing a lot lately about older folks meeting up and partnering or even marrying, happily and in many cases, unexpectedly. Unexpected in that either they had been searching for years with no results, or surprisingly lucky when they began their search to find the perfect mate. Perfect […]

Bully Wives? Yes, But They Don’t Know It.

Bully Wives? Yes, But They Don’t Know It.

By Jill Edelman . 10:42 am

Powerful Impact: Women are depicted as the “weaker sex”; have been for centuries. And in so many ways the inculcation of that notion, along with certain biological and physical realities, has successfully rendered them so, a state many of us fight each day. Yet there are times when sitting in my office, or out socializing, […]

The Coupledom Contract: Who Gets Thrown Under The Bus?

The Coupledom Contract: Who Gets Thrown Under The Bus?

By Jill Edelman . 9:33 am

The Costs Of Accommodation: There are many unspoken and even unconscious clauses in most Coupledoms. They may include never confronting your partner with the reality of their tone-deaf singing or limited grace on the dance floor. Perhaps the overcooked spaghetti goes unmentioned, or the gardening attempts that are less than stellar. None of these accommodations […]

What Is The Media Doing To Our Marriages?

What Is The Media Doing To Our Marriages?

By Jill Edelman . 2:00 pm

The Famous Unfaithful: A couple recovering from an infidelity described being rattled by the constant news reports of the famous unfaithful. The upside of the battering ram of infidelity reminders is that the husband is regretful and pained by his actions, which bolsters his commitment to working on his marriage. His wife sees his struggle […]

Normalizing Love: The Gay Coupledom Gets Married

Normalizing Love: The Gay Coupledom Gets Married

By Jill Edelman . 9:36 am

Love On The Margins of Society: New York State did it. They legalized same-sex marriage on Friday, becoming the sixth state in the country to do so, and the largest. The significance for same-sex couples who have endured loving on the margins of society’s approval is enormous. For some, civil unions may be sufficient or […]

Great Father/Great Mother: Failed Coupledom?

Great Father/Great Mother: Failed Coupledom?

By Jill Edelman . 9:31 am

The New Yorker Captures The Coupledom: If ever you need a visual for what is happening to your Coupledom, pick up several copies of the New Yorker Magazine, and flip through the pages. Inevitably you will find the very image that corresponds to your moment. I did. While preparing my thoughts for this post, this […]

Kate and William: The Royal Coupledom

Kate and William: The Royal Coupledom

By Jill Edelman . 10:12 am

Love In The Limelight: It is difficult to know which combination is more challenging: a coupledom where both parties are super famous as in Brangelina; one party is famous and the other unknown, by contrast, as is the case of Kate and William; or both parties are famous but one is a superstar; an example […]

The Limber Coupledom: Yielding Postures, Flexible Positions

The Limber Coupledom: Yielding Postures, Flexible Positions

By Jill Edelman . 4:07 pm

The Absence of Rigidity: During a two-week vacation, my husband and I spent time with three couples, who ranged in ages from late 40’s to 60’s. The couples had been together between 8 and 25 plus years. What was most telling for me, as both a student of couples’ relationships as well as a couples […]

 

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